Moment of Remembrance

“It is Lisa and Asad’s wish that as we get started today you all join with them in a moment to remember Asad’s Father, Muhammad Fariad, their grandparents who have passed, and all those who although they could not be here physically… All the people who we know are here in spirit, and wishing Lisa and Asad a lifetime of happiness.”

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Opening Words

“Welcome Family and friends! What a glorious day it is and how thankful are we all to be here with Lisa and Asad to witness the very first moments of what we know will be an extraordinary marriage! Spring has always been the time of new beginnings and yet for our bride and groom there was also a sense of history to this a celebration. They chose May sixteenth as their wedding day, so that they would be able to wake up on the morning of their ten year anniversary as husband and wife. What a beautiful gift it is to be able to give and receive from one another their promise of forever.

The desire to love and be loved by one very special person is universal and timeless. There is something about the human spirit that understands for each soul there is another half that will bring balance and harmony to a sometimes turbulent world.

The Qur’an tells us “It is He who created you from a single soul. And made it’s mate of like nature in order that you might dwell with her in love.” And that “Husbands and wives are as garments, one for the other.”

Marriage means each person is clothed and shielded, protected by a love that can be as strong as armor and as delicate as silk. Marriage allows us to show our imperfections and be loved not in spite of them but because of them… for who we truly are. Within this shelter we must always remember the key to it all is one that never wavers.

For as the Bible tells us. “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things, that Love never ends. So in faith, hope, and Love, abide these three; but know that the greatest of these is Love.”

The knowledge that God loves you and wants you to be happy is self evident in the love he has granted you. It is a precious treasure in today’s world, and marriage is the strongest expression of love and commitment that two people can share.

Lisa and Asad, and all of you here, if you remember only one thing from this ceremony, let it be that life is too short to ever be guided by anything other than Love.”

Welcoming of the Guests

“It is days like today that we realize who the most important people in our lives are, and how irreplaceable it is to be able to see them in our most precious memories. Therefore, Lisa and Asad would like to thank you all for taking the time and making the journey and for all the preparations that were made on their behalf to ensure that they were surrounded by the love of family and friends as they made their marriage vows. It is with you that they have shared the most important moments and experiences of their lives, and your lives. They have been to your weddings, baby blessings, birthdays… to all the events that make life worth living, and they are overjoyed to finally be able to have you share in their wedding day. Born or chosen you are those they call family, and those whom they love most in the world. Lisa and Asad thank you for your presence here today, and for being there for them through all the days that it has taken to make this one a reality.”

“The Art of a Good Marriage”
by Wilfred Arlan Peterson

“Lisa and Asad have asked Lisa‘s Godmother Rose to come and read for us at this time.”

Rose comes forward, introduces and delivers the reading

“The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.

It is never taking the other for granted;
the courtship should not end with the honeymoon,
it should continue through all the years.

It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love
that gathers in the whole family.

It is doing things for each other,
not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice,
but in the spirit of joy.

It is speaking words of appreciation
and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.
It is not expecting the husband to wear a halo
or the wife to have wings of an angel.

It is not looking for perfection in each other.
It is cultivating flexibility, patience,
understanding and a sense of humor.

It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.
It is giving each other an atmosphere
in which each can grow.
It is finding room for the things of the spirit.
It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

It is establishing a relationship
in which the independence is equal,
dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner,
it is being the right partner.”

Rose returns to place

Lisa and Asad

“As many of you know, and will remember for yourselves, our bride and groom met when they were both just teenagers. Although there was indeed an awkward period in the beginning, which they attribute to both the brashness and the timidity of youth, once it had passed they soon became inseparable.

In the years when people change the most, they managed to continue to grow both within their relationship, and as individuals. They were working together towards the future that they always knew they would share. Maintaining that spiritual intimacy, and striving to lay the groundwork for their future was something that came very naturally for them. Since those early days they have been one another’s life, love, and best friend.

They have come along way in their time together, and they attribute the success of their relationship to their ability to work together, to always compromise, and their belief in the great and powerful force that their love makes them. Growing up with siblings and knowing how special those relationships are, Lisa and Asad are excited to have a family of their own someday.

When marrying your best friend….. There is no firmer foundation for all of your tomorrows. For Lisa and Asad marriage means they have indeed achieved a certain level of success, that deserves new levels of commitment. This comes with a sense of deep appreciation and gratitude. Marriage is a promise that they will not live life by accident. Instead they will consciously co-create the extraordinary existence that they and their love are deserving of, today, tomorrow and forever.”

Sand Ceremony

“The symbolism of the sand ceremony is the same as the Unity Candle, two joining together to become one. The more natural sand represents all the love and support they have received from all of you in the past and is a reminder of how your presence here assures them of your future support. The colored sand represents Lisa and Asad as individuals choosing to join together as one. As the sand is poured it will make a pattern that is unique to Lisa and Asad as a couple. Guided by their love for one another the marriage relationship they are creating will also be unique and beautiful, fitting them both as perfectly as these grains of sand will fill this vessel. Lisa and Asad, will you please step to behind the table and pour your sand?”

Music begins
Bride and Groom step behind the table
they first pour a base of natural sand
then intermingle their colored sand
top it off with a layer of the natural sand
and return to place as the music concludes

Invocation

“Lisa and Asad come before us today with precious gifts, their Love, their Faith in each other, the support of this beautiful community, and their trust in many bright tomorrows. Let us each pray in our own way that they may find life’s deepest meaning and richest happiness, that blessings shall forever continue to shine upon them, granting them prosperity and abundance, health and happiness, joy and peace in both the physical and spiritual world for all the days of their journey.”

Presentation of the Rings

“May I have the rings please?

Officiant is given the rings

You are about to present a ring to each other. The wedding ring, a complete circle, is the symbol of the completeness a husband and wife find in a marriage relationship. The ring has no beginning and no end, just as true love is never-ending. The ring also is made of precious metals, just as true love is a precious treasure. As you place the wedding ring on each other’s hand, may it not only remind you of the endless love you possess for one another, but may it also be a reminder of the precious gift given you to make you complete.”

Ring Vows

“Asad do you give yourself to Lisa in marriage to love as your wife and best friend from this day forward? Do you promise to encourage and inspire her and to comfort her in times of sorrow and struggle? Do you promise to love her in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort? Do you promise to cherish her, and to always hold her in highest regard
Today and for all the days of your life?”

Asad: “I do.”

“Please place the ring on Lisa’s finger and repeat after me.”

Asad places the ring half way on to Lisa’s finger

“I Asad take you Lisa to be my wife.
I will respect and honor you, I will cherish and protect you,
I will endure all trials and cares with you.
I will be a tender and affectionate, patient and loving.
I commit myself to you, from this day forward,
and forevermore.”

Asad places the ring the rest of the way on to Lisa’s finger

“Lisa, do you give yourself to Asad in marriage to love as your husband and best friend from this day forward? Do you promise to encourage and inspire him, and to comfort him in times of sorrow and struggle? Do you promise to love him in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort? Do you promise to cherish him and to always hold him in highest regard today and for all the days of your life?”

Lisa: “I do.”

“Please place the ring on Asad’s finger and repeat after me.”

Lisa places the ring half way onto Asad’s finger

“I Lisa take you Asad to be my husband.
I will respect and honor you, I will cherish and protect you,
I will endure all trials and cares with you.
I will be a tender and affectionate, patient and loving.
I commit myself to you, from this day forward,
and forevermore.”

Lisa places the ring the rest of the way onto Asad’s finger

~ Pronouncement of Marriage ~

“May all that you are, always be in love; and may all that is love, always be in you. May your love be as beautiful on each day you share as it is on this day of celebration. And may each day you share be as precious to you as the day you first fell in love. May you always see and encourage the best in each other. May the challenges life brings your way make your marriage even stronger. And may you always be each other’s best friend and greatest love.

Having witnessed your marriage vows with all who are assembled here, it is with great joy, that I now pronounce you husband and wife. You may kiss your bride!”

Bride and Groom kiss and exit to greet their guests!