Moment of Remembrance

“It is Diane and Charles wish that as we get started today you all join with them in a moment to remember those who could not be here physically, but who are here in spirit and wishing them a lifetime of happiness.”

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Opening Words

“Dearly beloved, we are gathered here today to celebrate the love that Diane and Charles share and their promise that it will be a strong and lasting love.

‘What greater thing is there for two human souls than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow, to share with each other in all gladness, to be one with each other in the silent, unspoken memories?’

Today is the day that they will formally and publicly make their promises to one another. Although this is indeed a high point, marriage is a journey not a destination. Marriage is more than any one single event or promise. It is a series of decisions that have been made, and will continue to be made over and over again, every day, that shows each of their care and concern for the one whom they each love most in the world. Marriage is a promise that is renewed daily through a couples actions and a responsibility taken on in the spirit of faith, and hope, and love, that brings comfort in times of sadness and heightens our greatest joy.

Mark Twain once said that, ‘marriage makes two fractional lives whole. It gives to two questioning natures a reason for living. It brings a new gladness to the sunshine, a new fragrance to the flowers, a new beauty to the earth, and a new mystery to life’

Diane and Charles, may the promises you make this day live always in your hearts and in your home so that all which you share now deepen and grow through the years, leading you through a lifetime of happiness.”

Welcoming of the Guests

“Diane and Charles would like to thank you all for being here with them today, and for supporting them through everything that it has taken to make this day a reality. They know that your taking the time, and making the journey, took considerable effort for a good many of you and they wanted you all to know the deep appreciation and gratitude that they feel in their hearts for this. Without all of you and the sharing of these events, our memories would lose the scents and colors and the flavor and emotion that keeps them vibrant and alive. Without all of you the past would fade to black and white over time, so please remember that your presence here is a vital part in this celebration. All of you are the most important, and have been the most influential, people in their lives. All of the time, and conversations, that you have had with Diane and Charles even before they met have helped to make them who they needed to be to first find themselves and then each other. You have shared in their best and their worst days, and you are an irreplaceable part of their yesterdays, their today and all of their tomorrows. For all of you are among the greatest gifts that life has given them. All of you are those they can call family and friend.”

Diane and Charles

“Today is a celebration of love and of life, a celebration not to create a bond or a union, but rather to rejoice in the one that already exists. Today marks the continuation of a journey, the next step in ensuring that all that Diane and Charles share now shall deepen and grow stronger through the seasons of life.

They shared so many wonderful things on the day we met to discuss what would be said today. Charles began the conversation with “I always knew that there was something missing in my life, but that the person who I would love and adore was out there somewhere. When I first met Diane it was as if the world stood still and then everything switched to frame by frame as she and my future came towards me.”

They were introduced under the ruse of buying a house, thank you Annemarie, and soon realized they shared much in common. Their upbringings are similar, they are both veterans of a similar journey through their wild years, and it also seems that there must have been a series of near misses where their paths almost crossed over and over again. Were the powers that be being kind to them by allowing then each to age to perfection, and to gather enough wisdom to be ready for the kind of relationship that they now share? No one can say for sure but they now share a connection that is undeniable. Some couples finish one another’s sentences…. Not these two. One merely thinks a thought and the other articulates it.

Diane loves the way that Charles is patient with her, he reels her in, calms her down, and makes her relax reminding her that life is too short to clip around like a Tasmanian Devil. Although usually guarded with Charles, Diane has no secrets, there has always been an openness to their relationship, even from the earliest of days. He loves her creative side, that fact that they are both passionate people, and the way they balance one another, seeing each of them as a landscape full of hills and valleys that match perfectly. Not that the road is always smooth, but it is indeed interesting, and always well worth the ride.

For them marriage is physically, emotionally and spiritually supportive joining that offers them companionship as well as the opportunity to challenge one another to grow together as a couple and as individuals.

Even heated discussions are welcome because they choose to come through better than when they started. No subject is ever more important than their respect and love for one another, so under the protection of the “seven minute rule”, which is the allowable cooling off period before working things out, they continue reveling in their triumphs and learning from their mistakes.

Addressing Bride and Groom

Today is the public affirmation and acknowledgment of all that you are to each other. Seemingly your relationship will be as it has always been, yet there is a power in the spoken word. May that power bring you all the warmth and closeness, security and comfort, joy and happiness that this world has to offer.”

Presentation of The Rings

“May I have the rings please?

Officiant is given the rings

Diane and Charles have chosen bands that are not identical but rather complementary, representative of each of them as individuals within their relationship. They are both classic unbroken circles, symbols of eternity, with diamonds almost as bright and beautiful as the love they share, made of platinum. As the rarest and purest of all the precious metals platinum has both a durability and a flexibility that make it the perfect choice to symbolize the promise of a lifetime. For although the ring will age as years pass, it will never lose it’s luster nor it’s mass. This is because it is within the nature of platinum, and of love, to mold itself around all the bumps and scrapes that life may bring and to still shine on as a beacon of truth, and beauty in a sometimes fragile world.”

Ring Vows

“Charles, do you give yourself to Diane in marriage to love as your wife and best friend from this day forward? Do you promise to encourage and inspire her, to comfort her in times of sorrow and struggle. Do you promise to love her in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort. Do you promise to cherish her, and to always hold her in highest regard Today and for all the days of your life?”

Charles: “I do.”

“Will you now place the ring on Diane’s finger and repeat after me?”

Charles places the ring half way on to Diane’s finger

“With this ring, I promise to love and support you, when it’s easy, and when it’s not, in good times and bad, completely and forever. I promise you my unconditional love, for all the days of our lives.”

Charles places the ring the rest of the way on to Diane’s finger

“Diane, do you give yourself to Charles in marriage to love as your husband and best friend from this day forward? Do you promise to encourage and inspire him, to comfort him in times of sorrow and struggle. Do you promise to love him in good times and in bad, when life seems easy and when it seems hard, when your love is simple, and when it is an effort. Do you promise to cherish him, and to always hold him in highest regard Today and for all the days of your life?”

Diane: “I do.”

“Will you now place the ring on Charles’s finger and repeat after me?”

Diane places the ring half way onto Charles’s finger

“With this ring, I promise to love and support you, when it’s easy, and when it’s not, in good times and bad, completely and forever. I promise you my unconditional love, for all the days of our lives.”

Diane places the ring the rest of the way onto Charles’s finger

~ Closing Words ~

“Diane and Charles have chosen to conclude their ceremony with a brief reading based on the Dali Lama’s Instructions For Life In The New Millennium.

Take into account that great love and great achievements involve great risk. And that a loving atmosphere in your home is the foundation for your life. Be gentle with the earth, be gentle with one another. When disagreements come remember always to protect the spirit of your union. When you realize you’ve made a mistake, take immediate steps to correct it. Remember that the best relationship is one in which your love for each other exceeds your need for each other. So love yourselves, love one another, love all that is your life together and all else will follow.

And now that you’ve made your vows and promises of love and faithfulness before these witnesses, and exchanged rings of commitment as a testimony to that love, it is my honor to pronounce you Husband and Wife! You may now seal your promises with a kiss!”

Couple kisses and exits to greet their guests.