How to include children in your wedding ceremony has much to do with the children
themselves. Young Flower Girls and Ring Bearers are the most precious little things on two legs.
But understand that they are wild cards in the deck, who usually perform pretty close to task
with the little deviations in plan being usually well received.
~ Children's Gift Ceremony ~

"Often marriage is viewed as the union of two persons.
Yet marriages not only unite the Bride and the Groom, they unite families. With the changing
structure of what a family is in today's world we are offered unique and wonderful opportunities
to increase the number of loving caring relationships we have in our lives. During a wedding
ceremony rings are exchanged with a promise. Karen and John thought appropriate that their
children should also receive a token of their promise to them this day. They wanted to find a
way to let them know now how special and wonderful they all are in their own way, and how
blessed they feel to be her parents. They also wanted them to have a physical reminder for the
future that as they grow and become young men and women in their own rite, that their parents
will always support them. There may come times when there are things going on in their lives
that they may feel no other human would ever understand,

addressing children

but there is nothing that any of you can ever say that will not be met with unconditional love. So
is the bond of trust that your parents establish with one another, and extend to all of you this

Children step forward and receive their gift
~  Family Sand Ceremony  ~

"Gina and Martin, will you now step up to the altar and hold close to your heart the container of
sand representing the essence of all that you are and all that you bring to this union. As you do
so, embody the grains with all your hopes and dreams for the future. Bring to mind the strength
of your promises, the honesty and integrity with which you make them, and all the particles of
personality that make you unique and wonderful in one another's eyes."

Bride and Groom come to behind the altar
and each take their own container of sand in hand

Within a marriage each person is both their own and each others. Two individuals choosing to
create a new life with endless possibilities and new dreams that are theirs together. Will you now
pour the sand that is to represent the foundation of your love which is to support and nurture,
your marriage and your family.

Bride and Groom intermingle half of their sand

Leah, will you join us please?

The couple's daughter joins them behind the altar

This container, is here to represent you Leah, and your importance. Like colors of the rainbow
we're all different and special, valuable, and precious. Therefore it is only fitting that you be
shown as an important part of this marriage after all marriage is really about family. So will you
please pick up your sand and add it to your mom and dad's.

Leah picks up her container of sand and pours

Gina and Martin, will you now finish pouring your sand?

Bride and Groom pour the rest of their sand into the container

"And will you now seal the vessel as a reminder that nothing is more important nor more sacred
than the bond that you share as husband wife and family. Leah, do you see where you all are.
You are in the center of your mom and dad's hearts, now and forever."

And everyone comes back to the front of the altar
(Leah was very young so the parts that address her are worded for her to understand. With older
children age appropriate wording is usually used)
~ Family Unity Candle ~

"Beth and Kim as a demonstration of your love and support of this marriage, will you now step
up to the altar and light candles representing the separate families and family histories that are
also today to be joined together as one?

Bride and Groom's mothers come behind the altar and light the tapers representing their
family then return to their seats

Michelle and Alex, will you now come to the altar as Husband and Wife?

Bride and Groom step behind the altar

The flame that your mothers have lit for you represents more than their blessing alone. It also
speaks of the spark of divinity that lives deep within you both. It is a reminder that in marriage it
is your higher selves that you are promising to one another and the very best that you have to
give always.

From every human being there rises a light.
When two souls destined for each other, find one another,
their streams of light flow together
and a single brighter light goes forth from the united being.
These two candles are symbolic of separate people in their own right.

Bride and Groom pick up their tapers

By the joining of two candles into one,

Bride and Groom light the center candle

this symbolizes the strength and the unity of two joining together to become one, depicting
Michelle and Alex's belief that together they can become greater than each could be alone.

Bride and Groom place the tapers back in their holders,

Prior to this moment you each walked a separate path. Now as the Unity Candle symbolizes,
you shall embark together on a shared path. Yet the journey is not your alone, for you have
already been blessed with three beautiful children, and it is the strength of your love that shall
nourish you all together as a family. Joshua, Sandy and Kyle will you join us in lighting the
Family candle?

Children step up to the altar and together with their parents, they light 'The Family Candle'
the shorter pillar that sits in front of the Unity Candle. Leaving the tapers lit they encircle the
two center pillars as a sign of support and individuality within the unity of family

The past the present and the future are all here, in glowing tribute, as a reminder that there is
nothing more sacred than the bond that you all share as a family.

(If not including all 3 generations then we just edit to what works)
Ivette & James

Theirs was an
intimate Central
Park wedding
The foot of Bow
Bridge with their
beautiful daughter
as Flowergirl
~ Family Vows  ~

“Anthony, Tina, Michelle, Samantha, Jerry, Leila and Thomas, being parents has always been
one of the most important parts of your Mom and Dad’s lives. They are so proud of you and
of all your accomplishments. Today they are making a promise to one another, a promise that
no matter what may happen good or bad, that they will always be there for each other. This
promise they make, it is also a promise to you. They love you with all their hearts, and no
matter how old you get or where life takes you, they want you to know that that’s forever.
Jerry will you make your family vow first?”

Jerry repeats after officiant

“Peggy, I promise to be a good and faithful partner to you, and also a patient, loving father to
Anthony, Tina, and Michelle, caring for and providing for them as my own. I promise to be
their strength and their emotional support, loving them with all my heart forever.”

Peggy repeats after officiant

“Jerry, I promise to be a good and faithful partner to you, and also a patient, loving mother to
Samantha, Jerry, Leila and Thomas, caring for and providing for them as my own. I promise
to be their strength and their emotional support, loving them with all my heart forever.”

“As an important part of a loving blended family do you Anthony, Tina, Michelle, Samantha,
Jerry, Leila, and Thomas, promise to love and respect your parents and the lifetime
commitment that they have made this day? Do you promise to support their relationship and
this new family? Do you promise to accept the responsibility of being their children, and to do
everything in your power to help this family to grow and thrive over time? If this is your
intention please answer now “We do.”

Children: “We Do.”
or call
Vicki and Joe
They are now a beautiful
family of six and as the
Family Unity Candle shows
that it takes team work!

Photo thanks to
"As You Wish"
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This was posted by Carolyn Niethammer a Tucson Arazona Officiant, to the American
Association of Wedding Officiants.  She once had a ceremony that included this reading where
three daughters alternated reading sections.

"What is a Family ?"
Author Unknown

A family is .....
The sweetest feelings
The warmest hugs
Trust and togetherness
Unconditional love
The stories of our lives written on the same page
The nicest memories anyone has ever made
Treasured photos
Thankful tears
Hearts overflowing with all the years
Being there for one another
Supporting and caring
Understanding, Helping, Sharing
Walking life's path together
And making the journey more beautiful because .....
We are a family .....
And a family
Is Love.
This was taken just before she
ran back up the aisle, took the
Ring Bearer by the hand and
brought him down with her.
Can't you just see the "Where
is he? Oh, let me just go get
him!" look on her face?
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“Gabriel and Evan, you have always been the most important part of your dad and mom‘s life,
and they are so proud of you both. Today they are making a promise to one another. It is a
promise that what ever may happen, good or bad, that they will always be there for one another.
This promise is also a promise to you. You are already a family. They love you with all their
hearts, and no matter how big you get or where life takes you, they want you to know that that‘s

Have either of you ever been married before?
I‘m going to ask you a very important question now…..

Gabriel, do you take Evan to be your brother?”

Gabriel: “Yes.”

Evan, do you take Gabriel to be your brother?”

Evan: “Yes.”

“From today on you are officially brothers.
May you grow together, play together, share your mom and dad freely
with one another, and may God bless your family always.”
see video of this
This little man is
from Jessica and
Shawn's wedding
ceremony at the
Riviera in
Doesn't it look like
he has just
orchestrated the
whole thing and is
raising his arms for a
laugh crescendo?

photo by
Jennifer & Stephen
Married September
24th 2010
at the Roslyn

The little one... Her
name is Jaidyn!
Hi April

I just had to share this picture.  Jenn & I knew the ceremony wording would be amazing as the
delivery.   However, we soon realized the perfect choice we made, in you, when we started to
receive pictures.  This is one such picture.  The fact that you were so engaged and patient while
Logan was untying the rings was beyond anything we could have asked for.  Thank you for
making our day special.  I have provided several reviews.  I truly want as many couples as
possible to have the attention to their ceremony that you gave to ours.

All the best …